It’s all me, me, me

Having multiple sclerosis, just how hard is it to show sympathy to people who are a little under the weather but who make a lot of noise about it? Has MS made me less compassionate, and do I somehow think no one else has the right to moan to me about their own troubles?

I only ask as two friends and The Teenager have recently been struck down by a bad cold. All three are male, so naturally ‘man flu’ has been mooted as a possibility, but to be fair, they do seem very poorly and I am trying to be sympathetic, listen attentively and give helpful suggestions. I care about these people and hate to see them ill.

But a teeny-tiny-little part of me thinks it’s a bit like expecting a poor person to empathise with a rich guy when his Porsche is in the garage for repairs. Sure, it’s an inconvenience, but it’s temporary and normal service will resume soon enough. I feel like saying, ‘ill? You’re ill? You want to see what ill is?’ How awful is that? What sort of person am I, to even think that?

I have bored my friends to tears over the last year, constantly dissecting symptoms to the nth degree, analysing lesions and spilling out my fears for the future. They have sat with me through a merry-go-round of appointments, held my hand during MRI’s and kept my glass of wine filled. So I feel very small-minded to begrudge them that little bit of extra attention and help when they need it. I have offered to drive 18 miles through the rain to bring supplies to one friend and have tucked The Teenager up in bed with a book and hot Lemsip. This is one battle the MS Monster won’t win. MS may be for life, but so are friends and family.

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4 thoughts on “It’s all me, me, me

  1. desertdenial says:

    I know how hard it is doll. Especially boys… they are drama kings even when allergies strike! It’s okay to feel like you do. Even better that you don’t show it to them. That’s what we are here for! You are not alone. *hugs*

  2. Thank you! Sometimes you’ve just got to let off steam a little….x

  3. Alison says:

    It’s so true. And it does feel pretty mean spirited. Of course I never let it show, but I am glad to know I am not the only one who feels this way. I feel like my most difficult time with this is at work, when co workers bitch and moan, or leave early because of a cold. I show up every day. Every day I don’t feel 100% but they don’t here me complaining about it.

    • stumbling in flats says:

      I’m with you on that one!
      I work with a bunch of men and even though they do heavy manual work, they often cry off with the smallest sniffle!

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